Letting go and accepting that we don’t have control over everything in life is a difficult skill to master. I don’t know if our grandparents mastered it, however they made it look as if they did.
Perhaps it’s because our grandparents had SO much life experience and had lived through so much that they had a strong faith. They knew that they couldn’t control everything, and that when things weren’t in their control, a positive attitude would get them through it.
Gram knew, as a parent, that she couldn’t control her children or their situations. She had compassion. She always looked for what she did have control over, and that was her attitude. She could be supportive or she could try to control everything. She always chose to be supportive.
Bop was the same. The summer I traveled with him, he had a minor stroke. His reaction was so calm. He knew he needed to go to the doctor and he didn’t like hospitals, yet he knew this was out of his control. His positive attitude and faith that things would be okay gave him the strength to crack jokes, laugh, and let me know it would be okay until Kevin arrived.
Last year we took our daughter to the snow to go tubing. My husband and I being in our 40’s, I was worried about one of us getting injured. I couldn’t remember the last time either of us had done something like this. The first ride up the man-made snowy hill was terrifying! As the the crisp, chilly winter air brushed my face, I closed my eyes and just let my body relax into the snow tube. Reaching the top of the hill, I put my tube down, sat in it, and let the lift worker spin me and give me a push down the hill. I clenched my teeth, closed my eyes, and exhaled BIG as I let go of control. “Just let go!” “Have fun!” “It will be okay!” These were the mantras I repeated in my head the entire 60 seconds it took to slide down the hill. It was invigorating, a different kind of adrenaline rush than I had become accustomed to. This is the joy of learning to let go of control of everything. The joy of having faith that everything will be okay.
Living through a year like 2020 has tested our faith. It’s tested our resilience. It’s also given us the opportunity to build them. The challenges in our lives give us the ability to approach things out of our control with a positive attitude.
When doubt creeps in, listen to this beautiful music to remind yourself that it’s going to be okay. Have faith my friends!
Thank you for reading and if you know someone who could use a little extra faith, share this with them.